Do you ever feel like you and your partner are from two different worlds? That's because, in a way, you are. We all have different personalities and preferences when it comes to communication and information intake. If we can be aware of these differences and learn how to navigate them successfully, we can get along better with others and avoid misunderstandings.
We all know that relationships can be difficult. But one of the main reasons for this is that we often don't understand how our partner's mind works. We might think that they should just know what we want, without us having to say anything, but this isn't the case. Each person takes in information differently, based on their personality type, and so what might seem obvious to us might not be clear at all to our partner. In this blog post, we'll discuss how to get what you need from your partner without starting an argument!
The Myers Briggs Personality Type Indicator is a great tool for helping us to understand how people think and process information. Once you know your partner's personality type, you can learn how to communicate with them in a way that they'll understand.
For example, if your partner is an introverted thinker (INTJ), they likely prefer to process information internally before sharing it with others. This means that they might not be quick to share their thoughts and feelings with you, even if they're really upset about something. In this case, it's important to give them time to process their thoughts and come to a conclusion on their own before trying to discuss the issue.
If, on the other hand, your partner is an extroverted feeler (ENFJ), they tend to process information externally and make decisions based on their feelings. This means that they're more likely to share their thoughts and feelings with you right away, even if they're not sure how they feel about something yet. In this case, it's important to be patient and listen to what they have to say without trying to fix the problem or offer advice. Just let them know that you're there for them and that you support them.
By understanding your partner's personality type, you can learn how to communicate with them in a way that will actually get through to them. So next time you're feeling frustrated with your partner, take a step back and try to understand their perspective. It could make all the difference in the world!
Depending on your partner's personality type, here are some things you should consider before communicating with your partner, so you can get your needs met, and speak in a language they will understand.
- Give them time to process their thoughts and come to a conclusion on their own before trying to discuss the issue.
- Be patient and listen to what they have to say without trying to fix the problem or offer advice. Just let them know that you're there for them and that you support them.
- Be direct and to the point. They appreciate straight talk and logic.
- Avoid being too emotional. This will turn them off and they'll tune you out.
- Use "I" statements. For example, "I feel like you're not really listening to me."
- Avoid being too critical. This will make them feel defensive and they'll shut down.
- Be clear about what you want. They appreciate structure and clarity.
- Avoid being too flexible. This will make them feel like you're not really committed to the relationship.
- Be open to compromise. They appreciate flexibility and adaptability.
- Avoid making decisions on the spot. This will make them feel pressured and they'll shut down.
- Be concrete and down to earth. They appreciate facts and specifics.
- Avoid being too abstract or theoretical. This will confuse them and they'll tune you out.
- Be imaginative and creative. They appreciate new ideas and concepts.
- Avoid being too literal or down to earth.
I hope this blog has helped you to understand your partner or loved one a little better, so you can move forward with understanding as you communicate with each other more effectively.
If you have any questions, please feel free to leave a comment below or contact me directly. I'm always happy to help! Or you can always learn more about personality types and how they influence your relationships by reading my book, Who is this Monster (or treasure) in my house?.